Communication is vital in the modern world. The more effectively you can communicate with other people the more effective you will be. You will get on with people better, they will like you more and you will be able to sell more effectively.
How you communicate with yourself is also important. This may sound a little bit odd but consider this: can you think of a time when you said told someone you would do something but you also had a nagging doubt about it. You may have had a voice in your head telling you not to do it. For instance, someone may have convinced you to buy something and you were in "two minds" about it but you couldn't think of a reason not to. So you bought it "against your better judgment".
Learning to communicate with yourself means learning to notice signs like these and act upon them. If you don't then you will not be using all of your internal resources to maximum effectiveness because this internal conflict will manifest itself one way or another.
Tip 1
Try establishing rapport with other people by matching their body language, their way of talking, the way they breathe and even, if appropriate, the words they use - making sure you don't slavishly copy them. People tend to like people who are like them and doing this well will ensure that you are. If you do it well, you will also start to see the world from their point of view and start to share their perspective on life.
Tip 2
Become aware of your own congruence / incongruence signals. First imagine yourself in a situation where you had a choice to make and you felt 100% positive about it. Notice how you felt and behaved in this situation. What did you see, hear and feel. How did you hold your body.
Now imagine yourself into a situation where you had to make a choice that you felt uncertain or unsure about. Again, imagine yourself completely into the situation. Notice the difference between the two situations. You breathing may be more shallow, you may be more tense. You may hear your own internal voice telling you to watch out. Use these signals and incongruities to become more aware of yourself in situations where you have to make choices. You will start to make better choices as a result.
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